Wednesday, 24 August 2016


A Good Friendship stands the test of time

It is unbreakable in spite of the seasons which shine

It's the bond we share which binds us together

Life will be incomplete without each other

Every day adds to the memory we share

Our camaraderie is very rare

People get envious looking at our connection

They don't realize we are still the sensation

Whether is now or some years later

I don't see us going anywhere without each other

We pledge to stand by till we die

And commit to bring in smile without a lie

Let's celebrate another day for friends

And pray to the God to send all the blessing and love to them

Friday, 5 August 2016

Partners in Crime

When two individuals decide to tie knot

They simply forget how they use to get caught

It's the feeling which ties them together

Life takes a turn and nothing else matters

They become two bodies and one soul

And we see the love and camaraderie changing their role

We tend to see people changing for good

Now situations do not depends on our moods

Responsibility, Compassion and Trust are the building blocks

The relationship will taste like whiskey on the rocks

Taste of every sip is so refreshing and soothing

Our speculations come to end when we put are heart and soul in trying

Try to find good in everything you do

And marriage will guide you to make the first move

Leave your ego wars, apprehension and agitation behind

Your love will bring the serenity and help you rewind

Let your cards be out and open

King and Queen will turn out to be your pillars of love and faith

Tuesday, 27 May 2014

Celebrating 2-gether-ness

Its amazing to see yourself evolve everyday with someone
Every moment spent is like a lifetime
Soulmate are difficult to find,
But seems like I was lucky to have my soul- mate walk into my life
I wonder sometime what good did I do to deserve a wonderful person like you
May be its connection and spark which binds us
Which most couple finds it difficult to hold it forever
You have been my inspiration and guide
And as you say you are my adventure
Wish we could spend coming more years 2-gether
And don't let this bond be broken
It's lovely to be with your best friend
Who understands you more than a lover
You can understand what I share with you
It's a feeling deep down inside you and me
Let's celebrate our 2-gether-ness
and #"Seize the Day" forever

Monday, 1 July 2013

Being "You"

I don’t even remember when the last time I did something which defined me. I have seen people talking like this mostly every day. In today’s scenario, people are working hard to be liked by others- could be liked by your boss/manager, famous friends, most admired colleague, your idols in life and the list continues. They don’t realise, this leads to disappointment and thwarting.

You are unique in your own way. It started for me when I was in my primary school. It was a trend to be part of the most happening group. Every other girl wanted to be liked by this group and wanted them to acknowledge them so that they feel accepted in the society.

I was part of this group. We were happening in our way and were known to be the naughtiest girls in the town. But for me, it was important to have my own identity and individuality. I did not want to be recognised as the “GnG” as we called ourselves in school. I was found of my girls but there was something more important to me.

And that was “Me”. I decided to be part of social club and sports team where I could build my confidence and explore myself in a peculiar way. I participated in mostly all annual functions and was a sports captain of my school.

It did give me a chance to interact with others and see how they treat me as an individual and not as a part of happening group. At that age, it was considered to be cool if you are in known group but for me it was finding myself.

Later when I joined college, things changed completely for me. I was from co -ed school and connected with boys more but weirdly I landed up in all girls’ college. Again the process of being liked by happening group started and infact this time it was aggrandized.

I just could not connect with most of them. In college, emphasis was given to how you talk, how you dress up, whom do you talk to more, what vehicle you drive? I was astounded to see as how these things were considered crucial for any kind of friendship.

But I started questioning myself, is that all you need to be someone’s friend. I had to stay away from college politics. So I joined western dance society and was recognised as a good dancer. I had my own fan following in college because of my dancing skills. I made some like-minded friends in my dance team and had a best time of my life.

Stories from my school and college had some influence on me and I want others to relate and think what matters to them.

· Learn to love yourself first, but not at the point of being conceited
· Love everything about you
· It’s often difficult to get others to like you, when you despise your own character and features about yourself.
· Try to communicate more with people you see in your vicinity. It will help you open up more and build in your confidence
· After opening up with others, you will feel much better about yourself and others will see you as a natural person.

The story does not end here. These were my growing up days. Next phase of my life started when I joined work. It was like rowing the boat in sturdy water. It was a new corporate life with defined dimensions. Initially I was quite apprehensive to try out unique ways but slowly I adapted myself to the environment. The more I got to know the people, the more it became difficult for me.

I saw everyone trying hard to impress their colleagues, seniors, managers or peers. And suddenly the same question popped up in my mind. Why? Is it so crucial for them to be accepted in this environment.

You are losing your own self while trying to influence others. If you have confidence and belief in yourself, everyone or anyone will like you. It’s a taboo, you have to be liked by others to survive in this society. I totally disagree with this concept. Often enough, we find ourselves in which we are intimated by people who we feel are either overly well-presented or simply better than us.

Sometime, this may lead a person to think they aren’t good enough. This is only true to a certain extent: after all , there is always room for improvement and nobody’s perfect.

Steps you can follow to learn to be yourself:

1. Accept who YOU are – If you learn to accept who you are, you will be the most content and happy person. You may not be beautiful, charming or intelligent person. But you are what it makes “YOU”. At the end of the day, what matters is what you think of yourself. If you are okay with yourself and you have given your best in your entire task. Then there is nothing to worry.

2. Find yourself – You cannot be yourself if you don’t know, understand and accept yourself first. Find time to dwell on what you value and makes up essence of who you are. Try to think what kinds of things you like or dislike. Spend some time with yourself and your passion’s in life.

3. Build your self-confidence – Once you accept yourself and find yourself. It will be easier to build your confidence. When we know what you want from yourselves and what is it you desire, all your senses will work towards its achievement leading to confidence in yourself. Always be aware of what you are good at and strive to improve what you feeling needs work.

4. Stop caring how people perceive you - If you respect yourself, people around you will also reciprocate the same way. Most of us, get drained thinking about what other think of us or perceive us. All those who matter the most will care for you irrespective of changes. Bring in all positivity and don’t let external factors affect you. What you can achieve with your confidence and belief other may find it difficult to try. In other words, be strong in your character and others can never pin you down.

5. Work on your sensitive nature – If you perceive yourself as being overly sensitive to criticism, then make an attempt to change your reactions to comments and events. This is achievable by simply reminding you that this is an opinion of another imperfect human being.

Oscar Wide once said : ‘ Be Yourself, Everyone else is already taken’. As humorous as it may seem, it’s a basic summation of the truth. Everyone is unique in his way. We just need to look for the things which make us complete, content and happy.

There may be lots of hurdles in life, people will come and go. Do not to change for anyone. Focus on learning from your mistakes and laugh at your imperfections. Keep a very positive attitude for everything around and distance yourself from negativity. Glorify the sunset or lose yourself in beautiful thoughts. This will keep you strong and sturdy in all phases of your life.

One of the biggest lessons you can get from life is to “LET GO” of things you can’t control. The next time you are tempted to rant about a situation, think wisely before reacting. Is it worth all that frustration and enrage.

Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might, be as unattractive as you’re, and as accomplished as you think you are. Yes, let someone love you despite all this, and let that someone be “YOU”.

You were born to be real, not to be perfect. You are here to be YOU, not to be someone else wants you to be. Stand up for yourself , look them in their eyes, and say

Strength shows the ability to hold on and believing in oneself. It’s never too late to become what you might have been. Keep learning, exploring, adapting and growing . You might not be there yet but you are closer than yesterday.

Wednesday, 19 June 2013

Deceit of Lies

Life is full of lies

Being surrounded by precarious flies

Are people really candid?

Or they act like they are stranded

Looks like we have to get scrupulous to survive

Leaving the treacherous way behind

Wish I could change the way people behave

And not let our minds make us slaves

Thinking and worrying are our enemies

Got to find something which leads us to serenity

Everything around us is full of negativity

We have to allow our minds and hearts to find symphony

Once the murky clouds move aside

It will allow bright light of hope to reside

Sometimes I wonder what forms the dark cloud

Then I realise it’s our own thoughts who speak really loud

We don’t have to let it grow

Otherwise we will be struggling to plough

Let’s plant the seed of hope

So that we can pull our life with a sturdy rope

Bring in the peace around

Don’t allow your heart to drown

Life is full of verve, vivacity and vigor

We will find our way to heaven without any shivers!

Monday, 17 June 2013

"ARK" - Act Of Random Kindness

I was in primary school,when I first got to know the meaning of ARK. I remember, it was our moral science class and the teacher explained the word with help of a story. I heard the story and forgot about it the very next day. I guess,it never occurred to me till some days back.

How some people can selflessly do ACT OF RANDOM KINDNESS. Filling the water in a bowl in the scorching heat for birds, giving a piece of bread to a street dog, sharing your food with needy one's or even smiling at a stranger. Have you ever tried anyone of this. Naah, I don't think so. I am sure you would have given your left overs to beggars because you dint wanted to carry it home but not with the intention of actually sharing your food with someone.

I am not saying, I am the women you does act of random kindness all the time. Probably I also think on the same lines like everyone does. Because we are busy with our own stuff and don't get time for others. Others can be - animals, needy or helpless people, friends in need, nature,strangers or anyone for that matter.

But there are people with big hearts and they do think of others. I found it really amusing that a small incident changed my thinking. It was a busy Sunday afternoon, when I was in my neighbourhood market buying daily necessities. A small kid comes to the same shop and asks for biscuits.

He asks for the chocolate one's and quickly runs away. Suddenly I hear whistles behind me, getting distracted I turn around and I see this little kid surrounded by at least 5 street dogs and all of them wagging their tails and licking him all over. The next thing is, all his chocolate biscuits are gone. Yeah, I know you are thinking - Now what's good in this?

Henceforth, the question is if this little kid can share his food with street dogs with a smile on his face then why can't we just think of coming out of stressed life. Today we have created a life where we are drowning ourselves with negativity and trouble. It looks like a rat race to me where everyone is trying harder to reach to the top.

After that incident, lots of act of random kindness started coming in front of me. I saw my neighbour picking up a brick from the middle of the road so that noone gets hurt or tumble over. I never thought, he would do anything like that in his whole life.

In the bible, ARK means - "The ship built by Noah to save his family and two of every kind of animal from the flood". Infact there is a movie called - Evan Almighty, starring Steve Carell and Morgan Freeman which shows how the protagonist builds the boat for everyone and saves them from flood.

The idea is to bring some peace of mind, happiness and positive thoughts into your lives. We all know, this fast life does not allow us to find time for ourselves or to go out of the way for anything which is of no interest to us. So in order to find little happiness, lets try doing following act of kindness:

1. SMILE even to a stranger when your eyes meets his/her eyes. Trust me, the other will be shocked to see you smiling at him/her and will revert with a smile even if he/she had a bad day at work or home.

2. HELP whomever you feel needs it. You can help anyone walking on the road, in your vicinity, office premises, parking lots, park etc. It will give you a weird satisfaction in your heart.

3. RESPECT your servants, security guards, drivers or any other domestic helps. They will always regard you and believe me this will give you more happiness than shouting or disrespecting them.

4. GREET all your close one's everyday in the mornings. They could be your parents, grand parents, spouses, girlfriend/boyfriend, best friends, brother/sisters or anyone. Your mind will be embraced with the positive thoughts and you will have a good day.

5. LOVE FOR ANIMALS is what we have forgotten these days. Any animal- dogs, cats, horses, cows will revert to you if you show some love or act of kindness towards them. They can't talk like us but can love better than us. This act will make you a better human being and help you interact in a different way with others.

Lets get out there and bring some peace within ourselves and around us with just a simple ACT OF RANDOM KINDNESS.

Tuesday, 23 April 2013

Different People - Different Thinking, Different Behavior

Different people - different thinking, different behaviors.. I sometimes wonder why people behave in such a manner, which you dislike or you probably do not appreciate.. This is because, they are wired differently. Every individual has their own way of behaviors which comes from how they feel and think. Like, When I  go to work, I come across set of individuals I don't like or do not appreciate their way of conduct towards me or any other.  What do you think, will be my reaction? My body language will change and I will  ignore them whenever possible and may also build a negative feeling towards them. But is this behavior right?? It will do nothing to them but will bring all negativity around me and my thoughts will be filled with how much they affect me. At the end, you will be so affected that you will stop going to the places in office where they are usually present and you will also start changing your routes to office. But again, does this affect them? They don't even know that someone is so affected by their presence. You have to stop such things immediately. Try seeing others as they are and be normal to them.

 "Being nice to someone you dislike does not mean you are fake...It means you are mature enough to tolerate your dislike towards them"

We spend so much of our energy in figuring out what we "don't" like when our focus should be on what we like the most. External factors like other people behaviors, reactions, words should not affect us, if we maintain a healthy mind and heart. Other people can only affect our thinking when we let them affect us, we have to learn to control our emotions and change negative thinking to positive. Oh its easy as it sounds,every effort need to made to change this attitude. We all have read or heard or even seen "THE SECRET" by Rhonda Byrne who talks about laws of attraction. I genuinely feel that's how each individual should functions even if they are wired differently. We all have same size of brain, just how we think is how we feel and that's how we will behave. The moment we act mature, we become a calmer person and ignore most of the amateur reactions of others and trust me this will give you peace rather than frustration. If we react to other people juvenile behavior we will land up getting angry or even fueling ourselves again with lots of negativity. Have you ever thought "Why We Shout In Anger"

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled'n asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said,'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.'asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued,'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper'n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

Its beautiful to see how two individuals can connect at any level despite of being different to each other in all manner. The idea is to stay positive, bringing in peace by loving others and as said in Gita - doing some selfless service.