Different People - Different Thinking, Different Behavior

Different people - different thinking, different behaviors.. I sometimes wonder why people behave in such a manner, which you dislike or you probably do not appreciate.. This is because, they are wired differently. Every individual has their own way of behaviors which comes from how they feel and think. Like, When I  go to work, I come across set of individuals I don't like or do not appreciate their way of conduct towards me or any other.  What do you think, will be my reaction? My body language will change and I will  ignore them whenever possible and may also build a negative feeling towards them. But is this behavior right?? It will do nothing to them but will bring all negativity around me and my thoughts will be filled with how much they affect me. At the end, you will be so affected that you will stop going to the places in office where they are usually present and you will also start changing your routes to office. But again, does this affect them? They don't even know that someone is so affected by their presence. You have to stop such things immediately. Try seeing others as they are and be normal to them.

 "Being nice to someone you dislike does not mean you are fake...It means you are mature enough to tolerate your dislike towards them"

We spend so much of our energy in figuring out what we "don't" like when our focus should be on what we like the most. External factors like other people behaviors, reactions, words should not affect us, if we maintain a healthy mind and heart. Other people can only affect our thinking when we let them affect us, we have to learn to control our emotions and change negative thinking to positive. Oh its easy as it sounds,every effort need to made to change this attitude. We all have read or heard or even seen "THE SECRET" by Rhonda Byrne who talks about laws of attraction. I genuinely feel that's how each individual should functions even if they are wired differently. We all have same size of brain, just how we think is how we feel and that's how we will behave. The moment we act mature, we become a calmer person and ignore most of the amateur reactions of others and trust me this will give you peace rather than frustration. If we react to other people juvenile behavior we will land up getting angry or even fueling ourselves again with lots of negativity. Have you ever thought "Why We Shout In Anger"

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled'n asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said,'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.'asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued,'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper'n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

Its beautiful to see how two individuals can connect at any level despite of being different to each other in all manner. The idea is to stay positive, bringing in peace by loving others and as said in Gita - doing some selfless service.